Ugh. ..
I am so far behind on so many things around here, yes, I've kept up with a number of things and have done a lot this week, especially in regards to my yard, redoing my kitchen, assisting with kittens getting here, thinning out mine & Brian's closet, organizing the dresser, taking care of a few appointments, weeded the garden, planted several trees, flowers, etc...and yet...ugh
I'm feeling terribly burnt out.
I keep doing a number of things to try to change up my routine, etc...and it's just not "working" for me. I stay busy, but it all just feels like busy work instead of productive. Seems everytime I turn around and get one thing done there's 900 other things to get done and as I get started on the next thing the first thing is needing to be done again. :sigh:
And it sure doesn't help that a person who "has a day off from work" gets to relax & spend all that time just resting boohoo because he's so tired and so burnt out and is irritated with the "immature people" at work :blah: . :roll: :mad: Yea, he watched Mikaila all day while I chatted with friends...I started dinner in the slow cooker before I left, had to do dishes when I came home so we could have dinner on clean dishes, picked up the living room, all while hearing about the new crap he unlocked on his video game. :? I still needed to get trees planted, lawn mowed, etc...got the trees planted, didn't get the lawn mowed or trimmed... "there's always next time" or he waits for me to REQUEST him to do something. :banghead: I'm NOT YOUR MOTHER!
So back I go to what I do day in day out...repeat
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Monday, May 11, 2009
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Parenting Peeves
Now, I'm not going to profess to know everything but I do believe somethings should just be common sense.
Now, I do very adamantly believe that children learn all the basics about life in the first few years of life, at least the core basics, no they're not going to know quantum physics but respect, love, dislike, manners, responsibility, tolerance, and the like...core basics, nothing complex, or advanced, just the core principles.
I cannot stand when a parent thinks their child has to have everything they want all of the time. It's great that you can afford it, but honestly you're not doing your child any favors, I see it as a disservice to your child. They learn that anything they want they can have it, no work required. Makes for a sad life when they grow up and realize that it just doesn't happen like that in the real world, and heaven forbid something happen that suddenly these wants are no longer met.
A popular private preschool teaches that it's "wrong" to correct a child when they've made a mistake. Seriously, if a child is not corrected when they've done wrong they go through their young lives thinking they're doing everything right, suddenly someone is going to correct them and then it's the end of the world for them, they start to doubt all that they've been taught or allowed to believe is right as being wrong, or they have such attitude that they are quite grandiose and have no humility. Their thought is that you teach a child what is correct, if they get it wrong, it's up to them to figure it out. And it's a wonder why the crime rate age groups just get younger and younger.
Many folks feel that correcting a young child -- toddler age -- is a form of abuse and is going to damage their self-esteem. For a young child its simply a matter of 1)Keeping them away from temptation, if this means your child enjoys playing with your great grandmother's 200 year old fine china and breaks a piece and you expect your child to of just left this stuff alone because you told them "NO" you're an idiot!
2)If you can't remove the temptation, you remove them from the temptation, and then engage them into something else more interesting than whatever they were trying to do. Just simply moving them away is not going to do the trick, especially as they get older.
3)TELL them what is wrong! You can't just move a child from a situation or tell them know, and expect that they know what the reason is. Something simple as "Don't touch, it'll hurt" could do the trick, but for a child that doesn't know that hurt is something bad, they're going to be tempted to try again until they find out...that's how they LEARN. No one knows what hot is until they experience it. Help them learn, hold their hand, close enough for them to feel the heat, and explain again "Ouch, Hurt"...simple one word phrases go a LONG way. Your child likes to stand in a chair, when telling them to "sit down, not stand" you must pick them up and set them down so that they understand that sitting is acceptable, standing is not.
Now, I do very adamantly believe that children learn all the basics about life in the first few years of life, at least the core basics, no they're not going to know quantum physics but respect, love, dislike, manners, responsibility, tolerance, and the like...core basics, nothing complex, or advanced, just the core principles.
I cannot stand when a parent thinks their child has to have everything they want all of the time. It's great that you can afford it, but honestly you're not doing your child any favors, I see it as a disservice to your child. They learn that anything they want they can have it, no work required. Makes for a sad life when they grow up and realize that it just doesn't happen like that in the real world, and heaven forbid something happen that suddenly these wants are no longer met.
A popular private preschool teaches that it's "wrong" to correct a child when they've made a mistake. Seriously, if a child is not corrected when they've done wrong they go through their young lives thinking they're doing everything right, suddenly someone is going to correct them and then it's the end of the world for them, they start to doubt all that they've been taught or allowed to believe is right as being wrong, or they have such attitude that they are quite grandiose and have no humility. Their thought is that you teach a child what is correct, if they get it wrong, it's up to them to figure it out. And it's a wonder why the crime rate age groups just get younger and younger.
Many folks feel that correcting a young child -- toddler age -- is a form of abuse and is going to damage their self-esteem. For a young child its simply a matter of 1)Keeping them away from temptation, if this means your child enjoys playing with your great grandmother's 200 year old fine china and breaks a piece and you expect your child to of just left this stuff alone because you told them "NO" you're an idiot!
2)If you can't remove the temptation, you remove them from the temptation, and then engage them into something else more interesting than whatever they were trying to do. Just simply moving them away is not going to do the trick, especially as they get older.
3)TELL them what is wrong! You can't just move a child from a situation or tell them know, and expect that they know what the reason is. Something simple as "Don't touch, it'll hurt" could do the trick, but for a child that doesn't know that hurt is something bad, they're going to be tempted to try again until they find out...that's how they LEARN. No one knows what hot is until they experience it. Help them learn, hold their hand, close enough for them to feel the heat, and explain again "Ouch, Hurt"...simple one word phrases go a LONG way. Your child likes to stand in a chair, when telling them to "sit down, not stand" you must pick them up and set them down so that they understand that sitting is acceptable, standing is not.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Dear Rain,
I really wish you would let up.
Yes, you have done a wonderful job of watering my garden for me for the last 13 days, but please, they need some sunshine too!
You just keep going on and on without an end in sight by the 10day forecast, it just gets to be a bit much.
I'd really enjoy the chance to get out and mow my lawn. I know not many people look forward to mowing the lawn, especially one of such size as I have, with a small push mower, but honestly, the couple of hours I'm allowed out there each week really does a lot to help my sanity!
And then there is the matter of my children. I do not mind them playing out in the rain, splashing in the mud puddles, and the like...but I really dread the constant mess I'm having to clean up in the house, the wet kitchen floors really are a horrible danger to all of us, and mud and grass just shows something frightful on my living room carpet.
Even the weeds in the yard are starting to look like they can't take much more rain. Most of my yard is under ankle deep water, yes I realize if I dig down two feet I hit running water, but you have to give it a chance to drain off. I seriously believe that if it didn't rain for a few weeks my yard will not suffer. Yes, I would likely have to haul a bit of water to the raised beds, but the rest of it would be just fine.
Doubly, I know the mosquitoes just love the puddles you have left everywhere, but again, I can honestly do without those disease carrying bloodsuckers. Hell, I might as well as be a rouge Quilete wolf who refuses to be respectful of any treaties & agreements during the Voultri's invasion.
But yes, my dear rain, where you are very beneficial and I do love the power of the storms that are often associated with you, I really do need a break. Preferably one that is short lived, because I do know how you like to take a long leave of absence during the hottest parts of the summer, which are the times I'm begging for you to return. I do not mind two or three days a week...just please give me a break already!
Respectfully,
Steph
Yes, you have done a wonderful job of watering my garden for me for the last 13 days, but please, they need some sunshine too!
You just keep going on and on without an end in sight by the 10day forecast, it just gets to be a bit much.
I'd really enjoy the chance to get out and mow my lawn. I know not many people look forward to mowing the lawn, especially one of such size as I have, with a small push mower, but honestly, the couple of hours I'm allowed out there each week really does a lot to help my sanity!
And then there is the matter of my children. I do not mind them playing out in the rain, splashing in the mud puddles, and the like...but I really dread the constant mess I'm having to clean up in the house, the wet kitchen floors really are a horrible danger to all of us, and mud and grass just shows something frightful on my living room carpet.
Even the weeds in the yard are starting to look like they can't take much more rain. Most of my yard is under ankle deep water, yes I realize if I dig down two feet I hit running water, but you have to give it a chance to drain off. I seriously believe that if it didn't rain for a few weeks my yard will not suffer. Yes, I would likely have to haul a bit of water to the raised beds, but the rest of it would be just fine.
Doubly, I know the mosquitoes just love the puddles you have left everywhere, but again, I can honestly do without those disease carrying bloodsuckers. Hell, I might as well as be a rouge Quilete wolf who refuses to be respectful of any treaties & agreements during the Voultri's invasion.
But yes, my dear rain, where you are very beneficial and I do love the power of the storms that are often associated with you, I really do need a break. Preferably one that is short lived, because I do know how you like to take a long leave of absence during the hottest parts of the summer, which are the times I'm begging for you to return. I do not mind two or three days a week...just please give me a break already!
Respectfully,
Steph
Monday, May 4, 2009
Umm...Yea...
So my MIL moved out by us last year, she had it in her mind that she was going to be moving IN with us...complained that we moved from a nasty falling apart trailer house into the house we're currently buying a few days before she showed up. Went ON and ON about how WE ruined HER plans for living here by moving into this house. Ok, either way we only had a 2 bedroom place, either out at the old trailer or this house, except the move was like going from a shack to a HOUSE. She had me completely PISSED off within 20 minutes of walking in my door at 3am that day. Later that evening I talked to our old landlord, the one that owns the trailer and he agreed to let her move in there, didn't even make her pay the first month's rent...and the rent was CHEAP...$150 or so a month... She whined, bitched, complained, you name it about that house...rats bigger than her dog lived there, the coyotes came onto her front steps, the deer let her pet them, oh and some 15 ft rattlesnake. I spent the next month taxi-ing her EVERYWHERE to find her a place she could move into that was affordable...the trailer owner was in the process of building a real house in place of the trailer, etc, and it was just temporary, something to house her until we were able to find her some suitable housing... She sabotaged all the housing opportunities presented to her, she'd call them after I'd spend all day driving her around and filling out applications for places and cancel her "reserved" spot.
Anyways, In July she moved down to the Houston area to live with her sister & all that...she did the same thing to AIL that she did to us..we all lied about everything we'd do for her yada yada.... Anyways, she called ONCE in July after moving down there to get the name of her doctors, etc here, and hung up. Never heard another word from her.
UNTIL a couple of weeks ago. She sent a letter telling us all about how horrible her sister treated her, did nothing for her, etc etc...now I've emailed and talked on the phone with me AIL a few times just to check up on how Brian's mom was doing, etc, as well as about how the kids are doing, etc. So I have a good idea of what's been going on.
I didn't write her a letter, I'm going to leave that to Brian...and he's not interested in her manipulative ways...
Today I get a Mother's Day/birthday card from her.
Now. We haven't heard anything from her in 10 months. During this 10 months her "grandson", Mikeal has had a birthday. Her son, Brian, has had a birthday. As well as her granddaughter, Mikaila, had her first birthday. No card, no phone call, nothing from her any of these times...
Makes me think that she's trying to "make good" with the hopes of being invited back up here. I'm sorry but I worked my ASS off trying to bend over backwards to make her life easier here, etc...all while trying to take care of my two nephews, a newborn, and my postpartum depression. Not to fail to mention my baby brother was leaving to join the Marines and there was just a lot of things going on in my life. I am NOT going to deal with her BULLSHIT again.
She tried to convince us that she was dying, that her heart was only working at 13% ability, that she was needing open heart surgery, all this other bullshit that was necessary NOW. She also takes WAY too many addictive prescription meds that she thinks she just HAS to have, etc... Amazing. A year ago she was in desperate need of having open heart surgery immediately...and still hasn't had one...her heart miraculously started getting better and stronger after moving down there...in with someone that had the resources to take her to the mental health clinic if she didn't straighten her shit up and talked to her doctors about her "problems"... Her docs here never had the time of day to talk to me, but I also didn't push it much because of all my own shit going on at that time.
I just really don't want to deal with anymore of her bullshit. But the other side of me says this is his mother, he shouldn't ignore her, etc...but I can't trust that she's not just doing this to try to play more games with Brian by playing the poor pity me, on my deathbed card with him again.
GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
Anyways, In July she moved down to the Houston area to live with her sister & all that...she did the same thing to AIL that she did to us..we all lied about everything we'd do for her yada yada.... Anyways, she called ONCE in July after moving down there to get the name of her doctors, etc here, and hung up. Never heard another word from her.
UNTIL a couple of weeks ago. She sent a letter telling us all about how horrible her sister treated her, did nothing for her, etc etc...now I've emailed and talked on the phone with me AIL a few times just to check up on how Brian's mom was doing, etc, as well as about how the kids are doing, etc. So I have a good idea of what's been going on.
I didn't write her a letter, I'm going to leave that to Brian...and he's not interested in her manipulative ways...
Today I get a Mother's Day/birthday card from her.
Now. We haven't heard anything from her in 10 months. During this 10 months her "grandson", Mikeal has had a birthday. Her son, Brian, has had a birthday. As well as her granddaughter, Mikaila, had her first birthday. No card, no phone call, nothing from her any of these times...
Makes me think that she's trying to "make good" with the hopes of being invited back up here. I'm sorry but I worked my ASS off trying to bend over backwards to make her life easier here, etc...all while trying to take care of my two nephews, a newborn, and my postpartum depression. Not to fail to mention my baby brother was leaving to join the Marines and there was just a lot of things going on in my life. I am NOT going to deal with her BULLSHIT again.
She tried to convince us that she was dying, that her heart was only working at 13% ability, that she was needing open heart surgery, all this other bullshit that was necessary NOW. She also takes WAY too many addictive prescription meds that she thinks she just HAS to have, etc... Amazing. A year ago she was in desperate need of having open heart surgery immediately...and still hasn't had one...her heart miraculously started getting better and stronger after moving down there...in with someone that had the resources to take her to the mental health clinic if she didn't straighten her shit up and talked to her doctors about her "problems"... Her docs here never had the time of day to talk to me, but I also didn't push it much because of all my own shit going on at that time.
I just really don't want to deal with anymore of her bullshit. But the other side of me says this is his mother, he shouldn't ignore her, etc...but I can't trust that she's not just doing this to try to play more games with Brian by playing the poor pity me, on my deathbed card with him again.
GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Maybe "It"
LugNut just went into her birthing box...first time I've ever noticed her going in there.... I'm hoping this is IT...
Saturday, May 2, 2009
My Backseat Driver...
So the other day I was going out to my mom's place. The speed limit on the road in front of her house is 40mph ....
I head down the road, no big deal, behind a truck....
a truck that never gets over 25mph...
ugh
From the backseat I hear :
"The speed limit is 40, not TEN. Come ON!!!"
This is a regular ordeal...and it doubly sucks that he can see my speedometer & lets me know if I'm going too fast or am going under the speed limit or why I do this or asked what that sign means and what the consequences are for doing this or not doing that...
The conversation is NEVER lacking when in the car with Mikeal...
I head down the road, no big deal, behind a truck....
a truck that never gets over 25mph...
ugh
From the backseat I hear :
"The speed limit is 40, not TEN. Come ON!!!"
This is a regular ordeal...and it doubly sucks that he can see my speedometer & lets me know if I'm going too fast or am going under the speed limit or why I do this or asked what that sign means and what the consequences are for doing this or not doing that...
The conversation is NEVER lacking when in the car with Mikeal...
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